“We spend much of our lives going about completely blind to reality, and yet we still have the gall to act victimized when it invariably catches up to us。” – Nenia Campbell
“我們完全不顧生活現(xiàn)實(shí)白白浪費(fèi)了很多生命時(shí)光，既然避免不了要面對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)生活，那么我們?nèi)砸心懥縼砻鎸?duì)。”——作家奈尼爾-坎貝爾
1. You cannot always rely on friends
你不可能一直靠朋友幫忙
You will need certain life skills when nobody else is around. In this way you can rely on yourself to get out of trouble. It is a sad fact of life that we cannot count on other people most of the time. Make sure you have the following skills:
在你周圍沒人可以依靠的日子里，那就需要你掌握一定的生活技能，這樣你可以靠自己走出困境。大部分時(shí)間我們無法指望別人，這個(gè)悲哀的生活事實(shí)是我們要面對(duì)的。你要保證自己掌握以下技能：
You can cook
會(huì)做飯
You can drive
會(huì)開車
You know about the power switches in your home
知道你家里電源開關(guān)的位置
You have a spare set of keys in a secret place for when you get locked out
有一套備用鑰匙放在隱秘地方以備自己鎖在外面時(shí)用
You can manage your time
自己把握好時(shí)間
You learn something new about information technology every day to become computerate。
每天學(xué)習(xí)一些新的信息技術(shù)豐富自己的電腦知識(shí)
2. Make time for your passion
找時(shí)間去做自己愛做的事情
Whatever you love doing, make sure you do it at a set time. This is important because you find that friends, family, your boss, and your pet will be constantly yapping at your heels trying to steal your time. You have to build in the following defense mechanisms to stop people making unreasonable demands at the wrong moment:
無論你喜歡做什么，都要保證你在自己設(shè)定的時(shí)間內(nèi)做完。這一點(diǎn)很重要，因?yàn)槟銜?huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你的朋友、你的家庭、你的老板、跟在你身后朝你叫個(gè)不停的寵物都在竊取著你的寶貴時(shí)間。你必須建立以下防御機(jī)制來阻止人們?cè)阱e(cuò)誤的時(shí)刻做出不合理的要求：
Switch off your phone
關(guān)掉電話
Turn off the computer
關(guān)掉電腦
Go out and do it or lock yourself in
出門去做，或是把自己關(guān)在家里
Leave Post-its to remind these intruders. (Yes, I know your pet can’t read but the others can!)
記在便利貼上提醒那些干擾你的人(是，我知道你的寵物看不懂但別人能看懂!)
3. You accept challenges
你要接受挑戰(zhàn)
In order to grow in being sociable, stronger both physically and mentally, you have to accept challenges on a regular basis. You are pushing yourself to get better and stronger。
為了增強(qiáng)社交能力，身心都要鍛煉得更加堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，你要定期接受挑戰(zhàn)。你把自己變得更優(yōu)秀更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。
4. You like being alone but you are not a loner
你喜歡獨(dú)自一人，但你不是一個(gè)孤獨(dú)的人
“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company。” – Jean-Paul Sartre
“如果你獨(dú)自一人時(shí)感到孤獨(dú)，就說明你沒有把自己陪好。”——約翰-保羅薩特
It is impossible to exist without social contact. You can be as strong and self-sufficient as you like, but at the end of the day you need to interact in a real, personal and meaningful way, which is neither Facebook nor Twitter. You need to be in contact with real people for this。
不可能不與社會(huì)接觸。你可以讓自己變得像你想象的那樣堅(jiān)強(qiáng)和自信，結(jié)束一天的工作，但在工作之余你需要與現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中的個(gè)人進(jìn)行這有意義的互動(dòng)，不要生活在臉書和推特的虛擬世界中。你要與真實(shí)的人接觸交流。
At the same time, you can enjoy quiet time alone and you are comfortable with that. The health benefits range from increased creativity, less depression and improved memory。
同時(shí)，你可以享受安靜的獨(dú)處時(shí)光，會(huì)讓你很舒服。對(duì)健康也有增加創(chuàng)造力、減少抑郁、改善記憶的益處。
5. Lower your expectations
降低你的期望值
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine。” – Bruce Lee
“我活著不是為了滿足你的期望，就像你也不是因?yàn)槲业钠谕钪粯印?rdquo;——李小龍
Don’t think that people will always be there when you fall or fail. The phone will go silent. Many friends will suddenly be very busy with their own problems。
在你人生不得意或失意之時(shí)，不要認(rèn)為總有人會(huì)圍著你轉(zhuǎn)。你的電話不再響起，你曾經(jīng)的很多朋友很突然地都在各忙各的。
6. Prepare for bad times
為不得意的日子做好準(zhǔn)備
Stuff happens and it can get nasty! You will have to learn to be stronger and not give up. But the good news is that adversity and suffering will make you appreciate life afterwards. Those who endured hardships, like being homeless, divorced or ill, found that they been able to develop better coping strategies and were more socially active。
不得意的人生遭遇的確令人不悅，你要學(xué)會(huì)堅(jiān)強(qiáng)不放棄。但好在遭遇逆境和磨難之后，會(huì)讓你對(duì)生活滿懷感激之情。像無家可歸的人、離婚的人或生病的人，這些歷經(jīng)艱難困苦的人能夠找出更好的應(yīng)對(duì)策略并積極參與社交活動(dòng)。
“Hope for the best and cope with the rest。” – Anon “
滿懷最美好的希望，謀事在人成事在天。” ——無名氏
